Ain't that the truth. In my experience, most women are great, they're thoughtful, savvy, level-headed, hilarious, and more or less completely at ease with the idea that having dating/romantic preferences works both ways: just as they are good with the act of sizing up potential partners, they're equally okay with other people sizing them up too. Equality.

And ... some people aren't okay with this. I don't consider this a gendered thing: men do it just as much as women. And to some extent we all do this: there isn't a person on this planet who discovers that 100% of the people around them are attracted to them, 100% of the time. For any of us, some people find us attractive, and some people don't. Some of us handle this better than others.

And others really, really don't. Some people have terrible insecurities about their own powers of attractiveness. They're terrified that no-one will find them attractive. They're terrified of grinding the hard work they'd have to put in to attract the kinds of people they'd wish to attract. They've got a zero-growth mindset. They don't know how to grow, and don't know how to fix this. They're miserable.

So they lash out, point fingers, blame others, complain, whine ... and actively repel the competent people. The rest of us take one look at them and think "oh give me a break, nothing healthy will happen if I engage with this person, I'm off." The only people who'll ever give them the time of day are other idiots and assholes.

So idiots and assholes are all they ever see, and think the whole world is just naturally like that. That's their normal.

Then they bump into articles like yours, about a man just simply having preferences in women. Those of the people like this who are female have zero ability to handle or cope with being sized up. Zero mettle, zero character, zero inner strength. So they have huge screaming meltdowns.

Pain in the ass, isn't it? Most of my female friends are the opposite. In my experience, most women are the opposite, they're savvy and competent and fab.

But the most ridiculous thing of all is, just simply having insecurities about one's own looks and attractiveness ... that just by itself I genuinely have nothing but sympathy and respect and support for. Hell, who can't relate to that? We've all got that. We can all support it. But by using it as an excuse to wallow in tantrums and abuses, they're showing the world, and themselves, that they themselves don't.